Inspiration porn is a term
you may have heard or read at some point from the disabled community or Pc
“abled-bodied”….It basically means when someone who does not have a disability
looks at someone who does have a disability leading a “normal” life and sees
them as an inspiration for doing things that anyone would take for granted such
as raising kids, going to work or going out.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t
want people to think am an inspiration for them just because I had kids or got
married, but I want to be inspirational to someone if I have done something
that is amazing that even if I wasn’t disabled would be incredible.
Abled bodied ( I hate that
term by the way), or disabled, overcoming the odds should be celebrated and
used by others as a benchmark of just what can be possible if we put our minds
to it. Humans are great at adapting and finding new ways of doing things,
having a disability is no exception.
Things I hear often are, “you're so brave,”” I don’t
know how you cope,” and this is to just do with me being in a wheelchair let
alone living my life! What I don’t understand is the need to have two distinct
groups of people, disabled and nondisabled or abled bodied, whichever term
you prefer to use. How can we have full inclusion if we are going to get bent
out of shape over language that is used? It just propagates the whole “them and
us” thing.
I agree words hurt, like one
of my favorite Pat Benator song “words are like weapons”, and people should be careful of the language they
use and the labels they put on people. Certain words and turns of phrases are
just not acceptable, at all, under any circumstances, but people need to stop
getting bent out of shape over everything, Political Correctness, in my opinion
has gone wild. It has now got to a situation where the divide is bigger and the hate crime is on the rise. Because
of all the PC language and the bickering over what terms should and shouldn’t
be used, people have no idea what is acceptable and this makes them scared or
embarrassed to talk to anyone who is different in any way in fear of being
offensive and branded bigot, racist or accused of a hate crime or discrimination.
Again in my opinion ( which
is an unpopular one, but hey, never been one to follow the crowd), the people
who seem hung up on the nitty-gritty of it all, are the do-gooders who have
never in their lives experienced what it's like to live with/ through whatever
it is, or the people who are really bent out of shape, are bitter with their
lot they have in life and the cards they have been dealt and all they want to
do is take it out on the world as it owes them because it's unfair and they
want to watch the world burn.
To be honest, if you want my
opinion, ( which you probably don’t, but you're getting it anyway), the current Social Economic Status and
Political Climate of the country is not helping this either. Fingers are being
pointed, lines being drawn in the sand regarding benefit fraud, the rise of
people claiming PIP and sickness related help by the policymakers as they look
for a scapegoat for their misspending and backhanders. Basically, the
politicians need someone the people can point their pitchforks at and someone
to blame other than who it really is that is causing the issues.
To me, it seems that there is
a bigger divide than ever. Terms such as “inspiration porn”, people getting bent
out of shape because we use the wrong terminology that some think tank has now
decided is the PC way of saying something, instead of what was acceptable a couple of days ago, these aren’t the important issues we should be
concentrating on.
Don’t get me wrong am
grateful for all the people who fought for me to have equal rights and equal
opportunities, for all those people who fought so we wouldn’t all be locked up
in asylums or “special homes”, for the people who fought for my right to access
services, businesses and transport the same as everyone else, but I refuse to
get bent out of shape or sit in my room and cry because someone uses my story,
my struggle to get through or over theirs. In fact, I hope they do! I hope I
make them think “well if she can do it, so can I” For the few who do patronize
with the whole well aren’t you brave, yes love I am because I put up with
idiots like you, how does that song go “ fools to the left of me, jokers to the
right?”